I feel truly terrible because half the time, my aunt and other relatives do not mean any harm. James Scott, author of “Domination and the Arts” explained that often the subalterns-the subordinate group- often participate in their own subjugation as a strategy chosen over resistance. Though you might have to step away from the famous David and Goliath anecdote, it makes perfect sense. And think about it, David could have easily died. If he did not have the power of God (we are sticking to the original script here), I can imagine that he would have easily died; he had no military training, poor equipment and no backup. If you were David’s friend you would have called him stupid, careless, rebel without a cause? And that’s exactly what James Scott is saying. Resistance, which has a philanthropic and heroic ring to it, is not the choice of the soldier who fights and runs away so he can fight another day…in his own way. Especially is he/she has female children doomed for subordination without the strategy to protect themselves. As Scott says, such ideas of social appropriation are passed down and sometimes forced upon offspring (like me)for their own safety.