So as you all know, November 25th was the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. It was also Day 1 of the 16 Days of Activism that are supposed to end on December 10th which is International Human Rights Day.
I decided to pull out a recent story from earlier in November, about a man that bet his wife. It was a short story in one of the newspapers from Uganda so I am going to quote the brief here:
In Iganga, a staunch Arsenal football fan is looking for a home for his family after he lost his house in a bet over a game between English clubs Arsenal and Manchester United.
Before the game, Henry Dhabasani staked his two-roomed house in a bet with Rashid Yiga, that Arsenal would win the game. On his part, Yiga staked his new Toyota Premio car and his wife that Manchester United would win.
The two put their stake in writing, with local leaders and fans witnessing the deed. Dhabasani, married to three wives with five children, fainted at the end of the match on realizing Arsenal had lost the game 1–0. On Monday, several Manchester United fans stormed Dhabasani’s home and threw him and his family out.
A friend on social media told me “I don’t see it. I see commodification and inept leaders (some of whom might have been women) but I see no violence.” Even after explaining in some pretty long posts about where I saw the connection, I was told that I was just theorizing but that was not what got to me. This was the comment that got me in a bad way: “Well, for some of us we’d rather real violence, real physical abuse, is not neglected at the expense of theorizing. Start with that then you can have the luxury to do this.”
Is theorizing done at the expense of physical suffering?