How We Teach Our Kids That Women Are Liars

An article titled “How We Teach Our Kids That Women Are Liars” was posted on Role Reboot a few days ago. I don’t really have much to say about this, other than that it’s spot on and definitely worth a read. It’s something that I haven’t really thought about before, but it makes complete sense. Some stand-out quotes:

Three years ago, in fly-on-the-wall fashion of parent drivers everywhere, I listened while a 14-year-old girl in the back seat of my car described how angry she was that her parents had stopped allowing her to walk home alone just because a girl in her neighborhood “claimed she was raped.” When I asked her if there was any reason to think the girl’s story was not true, she said, “Girls lie about rape all the time.”

She didn’t know the person, she just assumed she was lying.
Is it really surprising to anyone that a Santorum staffer said, in the run up to the last election, that women shouldn’t be President because it’s against God’s will? What about the “news commentator” who thinks women shouldn’t be allowed to vote? The Senate candidate who thinks rape is a gift from God? Or the Senator and presidential aspirant who thinks it’s just another form of conception? Or the doctor who thinks women deserve to die for having abortions? How about the nominee for lieutenant governor of Virginia who thinks fetal birth defects are punishment for parents’ (read: mothers’) sins? If women die bearing children, so what, that’s what we’re here for.

No one says, “You can’t trust women,” but distrust them we do. College students surveyed revealed that they think up to 50% of their female peers lie when they accuse someone of rape, despite wide-scale evidence and multi-country studies that show the incidence of false rape reports to be in the 2%-8% range, pretty much the same as false claims for other crimes. As late as 2003, people jokingly (wink, wink) referred to Philadelphia’s sex crimes unit as “the lying bitch unit.” If an 11-year-old girl told an adult that her father took out a Craigslist ad to find someone to beat and rape her while he watched, as recently actually occurred, what do you think the response would be? Would she need to provide a videotape after the fact?

The full article can be found here.


4 thoughts on “How We Teach Our Kids That Women Are Liars

  1. Thanks for sharing this article. As you stated, it pretty much speaks for itself. This omnipresent distrust of women is horrifying and what’s even more horrifying is that, most of the time, we unknowingly perpetuate this misogyny. How do we combat this? Because women are not even able to trust other women due to messages deeply ingrained in society, there is no safe space for women.

  2. Ugh, I hate how spot on this actually is. I can’t help but connect this idea of all women being liars with Mariah’s “On Labeling Women Crazy” post ( What is it that allows society to paint women in this way–not to mention with a lot of help from other women? And what ideas are being fed to young girls that has effectively made a 14-year-old girl into a common victim-blamer, accusing another young girl of lying about being assaulted?

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