I was listening to ‘Easier to Lie’ by Cassadee Pope (anyone else a huge The Voice fan?!) today and the song really resonated with me. In ‘Easier to Lie’, Cassadee sings about the guilt of cheating and being unable to tell her lover the truth. This song struck me hard because there are rarely any songs by women about cheating on their lovers. In fact, the only other song I can think of is ‘Unfaithful’ by Rihanna.
When I really started to think about it, I realized that there are many more songs about cheating sung by men. I wondered to myself, why is that? Both men and women cheat. It isn’t a gendered activity. Then, I thought, maybe it’s because women face the harsher punishment for participating in the act of cheating, whether as the cheater or the ‘other’. They are called sluts and home wreckers (if applicable), and they are ostracized because they should’ve known better. For example, in Easy A when Olive wrongly takes the blame as the other woman, Olive loses all of her friends and suffers constant harassment.
I’m not saying that men get off scot-free, but they definitely don’t face the same wrath for cheating that women face. Is it because women are judged more? Is it because men cheating has become normalized? Is it because women are supposed to be more empathetic and are therefore more immoral when they cheat?
Whatever the reason is, it’s no wonder that women are less inclined to sing about cheating.